Hiding Debts From Your Spouse Can Be Recipe for Divorce

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[whatamess]

Yes Yes Yes!!

This is very important for everyone. I did this with my DH, because I knew he would go crazy when he found out. When he did we almost seperated. Weve got our act together now but now my sister is doing the same thing to my BIL. She has even taken out accounts he doesnt know about.

If there is one thing a couple should never ever lie about its money and debt. Its much worse to hide it than just take care of it by any means available.

Thanks for posting this, I hope everyone takes note. Money is NOT worth divorcing over. Talk it out and move on.
Wam

[lrprn]

Hiding Debts From Your Spouse Can Be Recipe for Divorce

We lived this situation as well. My husband was the captain of our financial ship for 25 years because it was important to him to be in charge of our finances. When the ship began to take on water because of some poor financial decisions he made, he couldn't bring himself to tell me. He kept thinking he could turn it around and I wouldn't ever have to know.

Finally as his financial house of cards was collapsing in on itself, we were starting to get so many creditor calls that he couldn't screen them all. I finally figured out that we were in serious trouble and forced him to tell me the truth. I felt so betrayed, and so angry with him. I would have bet my life that he wasn't capable of lying to me about something so important to our family's well-being, but I was wrong. It rocked our quarter-century marriage to its core. Finally after a hellish year of hurtful arguments, I finally decided that I either had to forgive him or leave him. Since he finally took responsibility for getting us into this mess and was willing to do what we had to do to get out of it, I stayed. Now we are doing very well and we work together as a team every day to inch ourselves slowly back to financial health. No more secrets!!

[poorme]

"For better or for worse...."

Some folks get a good one and some don't. It goes both ways.

[wooisme]

Well, I'll tell you one thing, that guy "Rothberg" leaving his wife and getting divorced over debt etc.(there wasn't love there to begin with ...he felt absolutely nothing for her whatsoever and there was no love there...i'm not going to scroll back up but isn't he a lawyer....."for richer or poorer" isn't a marriage vow sacred? Isn't a marriage vow a contract.......didn't he breach his marriage contract..."for richer or poorer" "in good times and in bad"? and then runs credit report to show he doesn't have debt and expects his "intended" to do the same to show proof of no debt..................People who behave like this should not be married.