My 20 year old got married in Dec and they announced just after Christmas that she was pg. Well, I was dealing with it, other mom went even more psycho than she had been. Then son was admitted to the fire academy, that took him away for 3 months. DIL was staying with us, and he came home every weekend. Then she decided to go back home and try to patch things up with her mom. Next we knew, she and mom were jumping on my son because he wasn't supporting her, and wanted him to drop out of his schooling and come home. She didn't even come to his graduation. He started attending marriage counseling, she refused. A week after he came home, he was served with annulment papers, that he decided not to fight. So now it is as if the marriage never occured. Tonight he was served with a lawsuit for all of the things she left here when she left him. INcluding the Christmas gift that he bought and gave to me, the clothes she had bought for him, the sheets off their bed(he paid for), etc, etc. She even asked for some spices that had been left in the pantry. All of this knowing that DS had no money. I advised him to start saving as soon as he went back to work so he would have money for a lawyer when the baby was born. She has told him that he will NEVER see his child. And the hard head hasn't saved a drop. He lives with us. He is on our insurance(so is she, but I will be changing that tomorrow even though his rates will probably go back up). We paid off his jeep( 500$) with our tax return so we could drop it to liability and save 150 a month. And all he can tell me about where his money goes is that he spent $50 Friday on gas, and is having to send the IRS $53 because his previous employer didn't with hold right. I have been sitting back to let him make his own choices and decisions, but now I feel like I have to jump in a bit. The lawsuit is for $5000. DH knows a lawyer that he thinks will maybe help DS cheaply. He will call him tomorrow and see. I told DS he needs to lay everything on the table about the baby and see what his best options are. If they aren't even going to let him see the baby.... Geez, my first legal grandchild and I probably wont get to see him. I almost wish they would let him give up his rights.
I have tried to raise my kids to do the right thing. But more importantly I want them to do things for themselves without my prodding, but DS is too bullheaded to even listen to anything we say. Both of us have been telling him for 3 weeks that he needed to make arrangements to get her stuff back to her. She still has his class ring, said she can't find it. She never made an attempt to contact us to see about getting her stuff back. Oh, and to top it all off, her mother is a lawyer herself, and a few lawyers were contacted by our preacher( who was doing the marriage counseling and tryying to be a gobetween). UPon hearing her name, the other lawyers refused to help. So we don't even know if a lawyer in this podunk town will even help him.
And I dont understand how her mom can consider herself a Christian. The God I believe in doesn't intend people to treat other people like this, and we all used to go to church at the same place. In fact DS and this girl grew up together in the church.
Sorry to vent so long, but I need to get this out to someone, and it has reached the point here right now that everyone is yelling and talking ugly whenever this is mentioned. I needed to get if off my chest so I could go to sleep I hope.
And of course with the BK and trying to get DS #2 into college, I really have no money to spare for legal fees. And my dryer is taking longer and longer to get things dry. And really, I am feeling very hard hearted at times and think he made his bed, lie in it. But the mom in me wants to do anything in my power to help out my son, and I know that I just can't afford to. I couldn't even find the money right now to sue for grandparent visitation rights.
So if you pray, just throw a few up for me.
I have tried to raise my kids to do the right thing. But more importantly I want them to do things for themselves without my prodding, but DS is too bullheaded to even listen to anything we say. Both of us have been telling him for 3 weeks that he needed to make arrangements to get her stuff back to her. She still has his class ring, said she can't find it. She never made an attempt to contact us to see about getting her stuff back. Oh, and to top it all off, her mother is a lawyer herself, and a few lawyers were contacted by our preacher( who was doing the marriage counseling and tryying to be a gobetween). UPon hearing her name, the other lawyers refused to help. So we don't even know if a lawyer in this podunk town will even help him.
And I dont understand how her mom can consider herself a Christian. The God I believe in doesn't intend people to treat other people like this, and we all used to go to church at the same place. In fact DS and this girl grew up together in the church.
Sorry to vent so long, but I need to get this out to someone, and it has reached the point here right now that everyone is yelling and talking ugly whenever this is mentioned. I needed to get if off my chest so I could go to sleep I hope.
And of course with the BK and trying to get DS #2 into college, I really have no money to spare for legal fees. And my dryer is taking longer and longer to get things dry. And really, I am feeling very hard hearted at times and think he made his bed, lie in it. But the mom in me wants to do anything in my power to help out my son, and I know that I just can't afford to. I couldn't even find the money right now to sue for grandparent visitation rights.
So if you pray, just throw a few up for me.
. I have a week of call coming up starting Monday, so I am enjoying it right now. Will be no more for 2 weeks, so it tastes mighty good right now. 
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