We are converting to a 7, but has anyone faced this issue before?

[busbis]

My husband and I are seperated and finally we spoke with the bk atty. His advice was NOT to start divorce proceedings and convert our 13 into a 7 since he will now have his own household expenses. He has found a place to rent, 3BR home so each of our kids will have a bedroom there. If he pays this rent we certainly are not going to be able to pay the chp 13 payment. Our atty didn't see a problem in converting, but do you knowho the trustee would look at our case since we will have 2 household expenses? The atty advised not to start the divorce because then it would be two seperate filings and we can be done in about 60-90 days by just converting. We meet with him this week, however we have only paid into our 13 for 8 months. Any thoughts?

[lrprn]

Your lawyer sounds very much on the ball. Unless there's something else you haven't shared with us, what he/she proposes makes perfect sense in your situation.

[arkienurse]

I agree with LRPRN, your lawyer seems to be up on things. But I am very sorry you and hubby are splitting. But it sounds like you are on good terms, which will be wonderful for the kids. My parents split when I was in high school(after they had been married 21 years). They got over it quick, and I am proud to say Dad and my second mom have invited Mom to Christmas dinner and vice versa. It is so nice for my brother and myself.

[AngelinaCat]

I am sorry you both are splitting also. I do hope that after everything is over you can remain on friendly terms. 'Hub and his ex-wife remained friendly also, after the initial shock and pain. It was HIS mother who thought a 'friendly divorce' was unnatural--because her own divorce had been nasty--and brought alot of needless grief and angst into the situation.

Good luck to you both.