Let's Debate~~Child Support Issues

[FilingOnMyOwn]

Rules to participate......You must be able to do so without putting down another person's thoughts and feelings. This is intended to be for discussion and you must recognize that there will be many sides to this.

This might have been a true scenerio for someone and it could be the reason why they are here with us. This is just something to get some thoughts and feelings out there. I know that child support is a great thing, but some of the rules that govern it has put the best interest of the child on the back burner. I know that the father is really taken advantage of. I am just curious as to how people feel.

Remember, we are all adults and this is to be an Adult Discussion.....

Scenerio:

Girl meets boy. Girl basically seduces boy to do a little more than hanky-panky. Girl is looking to get pregnant but doesn't share her future plans with the unsuspecting "tad-pole donor". She gets lucky (if that is how you want to look at it) and ends up getting pregnant. Doesn't tell the father that she is and goes off on her own to have the child~along without the father's knowledge that this is even happening......

Okay, here is the question:

If a mother gives birth to a child that the father had no knowledge of, should that mother be allowed to come back when the child is a teen and demand child support?

Its just one of the many ways that this has now become a woman's world. Men take advantage of women all the time. Now over the past 50 years or so, the tables have turned. Women now have the advantage in general when it comes to the legal aspect, although the lower wage gap is still present. It all comes down to the rules. If the guy plays the woman, it happens. Within the laws of today. And vice versa.

[Danielle1981]

I completely disagree with the wage gap. I make more than most guys where I work. I also happen to be hispanic.

As for having the legal advantage, I have to disagree with that. Slowly but surely we've been moving towards an equal responsibility to the kids kind of mentality. Which in my opinion is good. I have joint custody with my children from my first marriage and my son from a second relationship.

Now my youngest....given that relationship is screwed up to the nth....and I don't understand why joint custody when he has him less than 24 hours in a week. However, the kids from my first marriage....it is definitely 50/50 and it helps me out so much. I don't quite feel like a single parent when it comes to those two. When it came to having my youngest.....boy was I ever in for a rude awakening to knowing what it meant to be a single parent.