i wanna run away from home!!!!

[jane taylor]

I have been feeling so good about things since our 341 mtg. and since I've been feeling better physically (had major side effects to a migraine medication!!!), but I swear, my 16 year-old son is going to drive me crazy!!!! He's broken up with his girlfriend and prom is this weekend! (good thing they broke up since we're broke!!!)

Now the girl's mom calls and says that he broke up with her because he wants to party, drink, etc.!!!! I know he's not an , but I know he's a good kid!!

He's not doing great in school, but does a great job at work and is active at church.

Thanks . . . just needed to de-stress!!!

jane

[13inOR]

Sounds like the girls mom would rather think your son has bad motives than
accept that he just might not be interested in her daughter.

When you have teenagers, its just one thing after another, isnt it????

[robivi3]

Tell me about it. My oldest, 19 is overdrawn ($3.00) at the bank again. Daddy ain't paying the car insurance and gas no more, had enough. Get serious or get going, I can't afford to help with college and all if i see overdrawn because of debits at Offworld and Chinese buffet. Done with it, next customer... #2 and #3 seem to have picked up on his example and how hard he's making it financially on himself, they are trouble free. If you don't want Floridas FREE 100% paid education just for getting a 3.5 or above then Hotel Iraq is your destination. No Air Force, NO Navy, I darn sure will drive you down and it is Army or Marines, done with irresponsible "victim" behaviour, over and not playing. No more "teacher doesn't like me crap". They are doing ok.

Competition is to tight to let them play games, they gotta get more serious than i was. My world was different. I'm done with it, don't wanna co-operate, the US Military teaches you co-operation.

[debtisbad]

Jane,

I think it is tough being a parent today. I am worried because I am not going to be able to give my kids all that they are used to. BUT, maybe that is a good thing. My oldest is 11, so I am not quite to the "girl" thing yet. I know its just around the corner though.

Just remember how tough it must be for your son to be a teenager today. I know you are about my age, and we had it easy, compared to today's kids. There is so much more pressure.

I am glad you are feeling better! I hope my meeting goes well, but have not heard anything yet. I try not to stress and hope better days are ahead. I get upset sometimes though when I think about where this country is headed. I just do not think we are on the right path, just my opinion. I do not even know what the answer is. Everything is getting so expensive and it is so competitive. Everyone is vying for the same jobs. So much outsourced. No one seems to care anymore! Just so upsetting!

Take care!

[Minnymouth]

jane,
Sorry to hear the "boy" is having girl problems.... Ahhhh, better now then later... he's only 16...... so nothing serious going on there, hopefully.
His girlfriends mom is just mad cause she's spent money on a dress now, and her daughter has no date to the prom and probably won't go now by herself..... things happen, kids argue..... split up.....get back together or go their own ways and find someone new.
He'll be fine, too young to get serious anyways.....

Robivi3,

Yep, time son realized he's gonna have to pay the freight in life.... that dad is not going too................. and there's no FREE RIDES....

It's HELLO REAL WORLD.......... PAY YOUR OWN WAY......

If he's not going to contribute and just blow his money and expect you to pick up the difference, he's not learning anything...

Time to make him stand on his own two feet, no matter how much he stumbles and falls.......

Times are tough, the going gets tough, and he needs to learn the strong survive.....

Right now he's kinda playin ya to see what he can and cannot due as an adult.......under your roof!!!

Enlighten him DAD, teach him well, and I know you will.....

Minny

[SinkingFast]

I'd bet that call had nothing to do with your son and his motives. I'd bet it's MONEY talking or Mommy was expecting her baby to be going to the dance.

You said Prom is right around the corner??!!

They (Mommy dearest) could have been presumptive and already purchased a dress thinking it was a done deal.

Or they (Mommy dearest) were really excited about the prospect of going to the first Prom. Now with the break-up, at this late date, it's not likely that anyone else will ask the girl.

Oddly enough, lots of Moms of teenaged girls, relive their teen years thru their daughters. I've seen it a lot. The Band takes a combination competition/ski trip to Colorado and the same Mommies go as chapperones every time. Homecoming Dance, Project Grad night, whatever, the same Mommies are there time after time. I feel for the kids. They don't get to enjoy their teen years and have the same fun other kids do because Mommy is always tagging along.

Excuse me, but spending that much time with a bunch of teenagers ain't my idea of fun. I live with 3 already and I love em all, but that's enough for me!

[AMISLANDER]

oh but wait...listen to this...

...my boyfriend asks me for $25 this morning for "guy stuff"...he's dropping me off at work so he can use my SUV to go looking for work...this has been going on for WEEKS...I said sorry, no cash availability...well, what about your atm card, "it's not hooked up to my PIN" how come? what if you need cash? "I don't"!!!!! talk about children, what about the grown up ones????

And you wonder why I'm volunteering at the film festival???? Men with jobs!

[jane taylor]

Had a good talk with our son last night after he got home from work. Admitted he'd had a couple of beers before and where he got them. Yes, I do think that her mom was upset about the prom. They'd already gotten the dress for another formal they went to so it's not like she bought a brand new one, thank goodness.

Yes, Minny, they are definitely too young to be this serious!! I agree, but this girl's mom has introduced my son to her family as her "future son-in-law." When I heard that, I was pretty upset. They're kids!!!

Sinking, I agree. Some parents do live vicariously through their kids. I love my children, but I can't do that. They need to develop their own identities--will save them a lot of time, trouble, and $$ in therapy later.

Amislander, I know what you mean about the "grown children." My husband gets on my last nerve sometimes, but he is wonderful most of the time.

[Minnymouth]

amislander,
Not to be nosy in your personal life, but how long this boyfriend been beating the path looking for work??? Especially with you working 2 jobs.....

Tell me if I'm sticking my nose in where its not wanted!!!

Here in KY we have a lot of "looking for work, give me your car and money, Honey's".....

Hope you have a partner that's TRYING to help you in life.... not cause you more expense and problems...

My thoughts today...

[robivi3]

Amis, he's gonna lose one good looking woman... He already lives on AMI, a paradise, why not just get a job and have a nice life?!