Daily Arguments About Finances

[Frogge]

I can think of 10,000 worse things a guy can do other than work in the garage all day ... I really think you guys may be more constructive than you think you are with each other ....Getting away from each other without adding further poison (or acting out in a destructive way) is an extremely mature and helpful thing for couples to do ...

Marriage therapists spend dozens of hours trying to get fighting couples to make a move like that ... It's actually harder to do than it seems, much harder ... I'm glad you told us about this. I got to remember this the next time I get married! When the big conflict comes, I'm gonna go to the garage like Frogge's husband!!!

LOLOL... What's really funny about this, that I didn't add earlier, was that in our BIG argument earlier today he said he was going out without me tonight because he SURE didn't want to hang out with me... etc.. so I was totally expecting him to go out with some friends. I mean..... I don't know why he didn't, but I think it's funny that he stayed in the garage..

[Frogge]

Yay!!
I knew things would work out, you guys just need a little time apart and away from you money problems!

Take Care

Thank you Liz!!

[gymbo]

Anyway, he came in the BR and said, "Baby, I'm sorry... for whatever, I don't want to argue anymore." Of course I ran & hugged him,
He said "you know we'll be ok, it's just money."
Me: "I know, I am sorry too.. I just feel like a big loser, I feel like I screwed everything up.. etc."
He said: "No, you didn't. and it's going to be OK. It's all good. We are together, no matter what happens. That's all that matters anyway."

Hurray!!!!
That's GREAT to hear
I'm so happy for you!

[Brookamy]

I'm newly married. And money is a big stress for us. I'm planning on filing bankruptcy...he's not. We haven't combined our money yet...I think we should wait until after the BK. Money (or lack of it) runs my life and it causes stress. I actually just set up an appointment with a counselor for us.