Need to gripe!! Personal, non bk problems. Very long

[arkienurse]

I cant believe they had the guts to go buy a dog while they cant even feed the family. That is unbelievably dumb. Maybe you have to tell them to pay you at least a small 'lot' rent if your Dh will allow it. As it is now you may be stuck with them for years....!!
Um, now I DONT want to get TOOO paranoid or personal, but you mentioned ziplocs and tinfoil. They use to dissappear too after a certain family member of mine got money......she was using the tinfoil to make pipes and the ziplocs to make baggies to sell and or store pot....I have known quite a few to sell public assistance checks and goods for *other* goods. For use and resale....
Im sure thats NOT the case, but just in case....It seems that these types of extra curricular activitiy are getting more common. Its better to be safe than sorry!!!

Hopefully these folks are not that type. I have one heck of a naughty extended family and always assume the worst. Cuz it usually is.
Good luck...
WAM

Well, the brother in law living with them has to go to court ordered NA meetings 3 times a week as a condition of his parole . But I don't think they are doing drugs over there- went through that the week of memorial day, http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fu...ndID=194608908 (if link doesn't work, myspace id is same as here, arkienurse)

They are just milking the system for all they can get.

[Minnymouth]

If your DH has finally admitted that maybe it was a mistake to let them move next to you, NOW maybe he will work with you in helping solve the problem.....

Questions.......

1. Are they tied into your water line?

2. Are the hooked into your electricity?

3. Do they pay lot rent?

THEN IT'S TIME THEY DO................. Sit them down, tell them they have had "ample time" to get things turned around. NOW, water has to go in their own name, electric in their own name, etc..... and they will also have to pay lot rent..... otherwise they will have to move....

Also let them know to "knock" when they come to your door, because they "don't live there" and the "frig" is not a public frig......and you are not running a "foodbank"......

Keep us posted on what you do.......

[sickandtired8]

Good advice Minny but.....

If your DH has finally admitted that maybe it was a mistake to let them move next to you, NOW maybe he will work with you in helping solve the problem.....

Questions.......

1. Are they tied into your water line?

2. Are the hooked into your electricity?

3. Do they pay lot rent?

THEN IT'S TIME THEY DO................. Sit them down, tell them they have had "ample time" to get things turned around. NOW, water has to go in their own name, electric in their own name, etc..... and they will also have to pay lot rent..... otherwise they will have to move....

Also let them know to "knock" when they come to your door, because they "don't live there" and the "frig" is not a public frig......and you are not running a "foodbank"......

Keep us posted on what you do.......

From what has been posted so far, I don't see that happening. For her sake, I hope it does. People teach people how to treat them! JMHO S&T

[whatamess]

Arkie...
OMG about the raid bit, how...how do you put it, infuriating!!!!
Someone reported a friend of mine last year as a dealer. They also said since sha had a tummy tuck and lift due to weight loss she was a stripper, and that she left the kids every night from 11pm to 7am while she went to strip. This was in insane lie...yes she has has some lifts, nips & tucks and looks fab, but all else is crap. She lost a lot of weight and started working out after some health scares. Someone here in the 'hood got mad cuz she looked good we think. Maybe turned thier hubbys head or something. Well, the police came in and TORE the house apart, and had the kids in tears from fear. We all told the cops she was always with the kids, and that the kids were never left alone.
It goes to show you how wicked people can be.
Sorry about your lightening strike. We had that a few months ago and lost two TV's, a stereo and electricity on one wall of my kids room. Our Homeowners deductable was so big we said forget it and bought a cheap little walmart TV to make due. Now our neighbors well dried up and the pump went, and we are petrified about our well. Theve built to much sprawl and now the water is drying up. Were talking a $6000-8000 job....God help us..
WAM

[arkienurse]

If your DH has finally admitted that maybe it was a mistake to let them move next to you, NOW maybe he will work with you in helping solve the problem.....

Questions.......

1. Are they tied into your water line?

No, DH made them run their own line and put in a meter box.

2. Are the hooked into your electricity?

Thank God, NO

3. Do they pay lot rent?

Well, no, buuttt They have done a few things around the yard, like cutting down some of the brush that accumulated, and they were keeping the yard semi mowed until our lawn mower died for good. Semi because like teenagers, they seem to have a very short attention span. Lot rent is one of the things DH mentioned last week to me.

THEN IT'S TIME THEY DO................. Sit them down, tell them they have had "ample time" to get things turned around. NOW, water has to go in their own name, electric in their own name, etc..... and they will also have to pay lot rent..... otherwise they will have to move....

Also let them know to "knock" when they come to your door, because they "don't live there" and the "frig" is not a public frig......and you are not running a "foodbank"......

Keep us posted on what you do.......

Oh, believe me, I will. I have cleaned out my pantry and made an inventory, working on one for the freezer right now. She actually came over Sunday and "bought" some cokes from DS. He sold her 4 for $2.00. DH made a comment, and she says it saved me my gas money driving to the store. ( the store is 1/4 mile away, and my other kids have walked it many a time to get a soda )

[arkienurse]

Arkie...
Sorry about your lightening strike. We had that a few months ago and lost two TV's, a stereo and electricity on one wall of my kids room. Our Homeowners deductable was so big we said forget it and bought a cheap little walmart TV to make due. Now our neighbors well dried up and the pump went, and we are petrified about our well. Theve built to much sprawl and now the water is drying up. Were talking a $6000-8000 job....God help us..
WAM

We didn't even consider filing on our insurance. Right after we filed, the company that had our insurance stopped insuring houses as old as ours. We tried 3 different companies. ONe wouldn't insure us until we painted the siding and eaves, and re- roofed the outbuildings( which are to the point of needing torn down anyway) The second company and the 3rd refused us because we have what is apparently asbestos siding on the house. Remove it and they will be happy to insure us. We acutally went an entire year without homeowners until the mortgage co figured it out. They forced insurance on us, which is fine with me, at least if the darn thing burns it will pay off the mortgage. But every year at renewal time they send this letter that we can get better coverage cheaper than this company. Well not as long as we are in 13 we can't. Not until we actually have the money to cover the siding, paint the eaves, redo the electric wiring(DH says it is so old we are at the limit on what it will support without blowing)

[arkienurse]

From what has been posted so far, I don't see that happening. For her sake, I hope it does. People teach people how to treat them! JMHO S&T

Naw, they aint movin. Got no money to move that trailer, and the way things are going they never will. But I have made some changes around here to stop the pilferin.
And yes, I am a wuss when it comes to confrontation. Confrontation makes me nauseus and uneasy. But when you push me far enough, like taking the drinks my son bought with his own money, I tend to fight back too much.

[Minnymouth]

Yep, girl, let them KNOW THEIR LIMITS, and keep them within them...... and maybe things will be okay......

If momma ain't happy, nobody is...... and momma has been "around the block" a few times more than the SD and friends.

Since your DH is basically on the same page as you, you can work together on solving the problem and keeping them in line......

Yep, I'm a creature of habit also, I know what I buy and what I have on hand, when it disappears someone has "sticky hands".......

Do what ya gotta do to make it work...... I know I do whether it be having a serious talk with them, locks, raise the rent, or throw them out. Makes no difference to me one way or the other...

Gosh, I'm a "mean ole lady" aren't I???

I rent out rooms, I don't "support" anyone.............and they don't "support" me!!

Keep us posted.....

[sickandtired8]

Naw, they aint movin. Got no money to move that trailer, and the way things are going they never will. But I have made some changes around here to stop the pilferin.
And yes, I am a wuss when it comes to confrontation. Confrontation makes me nauseus and uneasy. But when you push me far enough, like taking the drinks my son bought with his own money, I tend to fight back too much.

Thats the mama bear coming out! S&T

[whatamess]

Anything new now Arkie? Are they behaving any better yet? Is this
Wishful thinking?
Just wondering...
WAM

[arkienurse]

Anything new now Arkie? Are they behaving any better yet? Is this
Wishful thinking?
Just wondering...
WAM

Actually I haven't missed anything in the past few weeks. Guess the reorganizing the pantry and putting up a list of what was there helped a lot. But they are getting calls here still. I picked up the phone at the ungodly hour of 8am this morning( I worked 16 hrs thurs, 12 friday and wasn't planning to get up until L A T E ). The recording said it was from the automated bill pay system. So I guess one of her online payments has bounced for lights or something.

[demismom]

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. My Mother and I have our own issues. She's got a gambling problem, cheats on every man she's ever been with. She's on dialysis - her kidneys are shot, and is on disability, yet she can still somehow get to the casino. She expects us to pay her car repair bills, dr bills, etc. I feel for ya!

[guzzie]

hi and god bless you....heard of tough love? we had these problems with a family member..shut off the " tap " and boy he learned the hard way...they have to learn the difference between wants and needs...you start saying no and mean it,
they will learn...tough love, try it...you don't deserve to live like this...good luck, guzzie