Hey G_Mom @ bf.com

[jane taylor]

JeepMom:

I am so sorry that happened to you! Mean crazy people or crazy mean people are the worst!! Jane Taylor is not my real name, just names I picked randomly. Guess I'm a little paranoid.

Your kids are precious and I wish you all the very best with your new home. I think it is wonderful when moms stay at home and also think it is wonderful when moms work outside the home and they are happy with that.

I've found that the old saying is true. . . "If Momma ain't happy, ain' NOBODY happy!!!"

I've said it before, I may not agree with everything members say or do, but I have no right to judge them. BK is one of the worst nightmares I've ever had and I can't imagine deliberately trying to make it worse for someone.

Just my opinion for what it's worth.

[AMISLANDER]

I was very lucky to....

...stay at home with my children as the birth to about 2 and 1/2 are so very important....my boys are 22 months apart and since my x-husband was never home (hospital with the nurse...lol) the first six months of dealing with two at once were not easy but it was still one of the best times of my life. Once my youngest was six months old, I put my older toddler in preschool for 3 mornings a week to give me more alone time with the baby. That worked out very good and I was less stressed as moms do need time alone with each one. But I was loved raising my sons and it meant the world to me. I got to see all the firsts that way. Now that they are with their father, I miss them immensely but their health (allergy to Florida mold) has drastically improved and they need the guidance of their father at this age ( 8 and 10).

I wish all mothers could stay at home but it's just not always possible...it's true what "they" say...there's plenty of time to clean the house when they start school....enjoy that mess while you can!!!

[Minnymouth]

Now on the opposite side of the spectrum.........

A young couple I know - in their early 30's are just the opposite of most people......... She works, he's stay at home dad............... one almost 3, one 14 months, and now another on the way shortly.......

His wife HATES being locked up with kids, loves her job (waitress), refuses to stay home and change diapers............. She only takes off long enough to have the kids (usually 2 weeks)....

Yep, times are a-changing.................

[pink_amulet]

When my oldest was born back in 94, I worked at a day care already so I just brought him there with me. When my second son was born in 2000, we couldn't afford two in day care, so I became a SAHM. However, come next January that is coming to an end. My baby will be attending 1st grade full time this August . I was able to stay home with him and his brother for the last 6 years and I made the most of it!! We have been in our apt for 8 years now, and now that BK is done and out of the way, we have our goal set on getting our first house. So we set July 2008 as our goal date. Last week we were out driving, and looked at the new Cambridge Home development they are building out here in NW Illinois (45 mins from Chicago)...we was surprised....only $215,000 , for 3 bedroom plus a loft, 2 1/2 bath, formal dining room, HUGE family room, living room with 2 car garage and a huge yard . It is close to hubby's work, which he has been at for the last 7 years. However, if I want a nice house, I have to get a job....which after I sit and look at it, I really want to get back in the work force anyways...I left my position as administrative assistant for the same hospital hubby works at, and I really want to get back in the the adult atmoshphere..lol .
I'm so glad my Hubby was supportive of my decision, he busted his butt ,so I can stay home, with the boys. Now when I get my career, I can show my gratitude, and we can get the good things in life we have been putting on hold!!!!

[JeepMom]

My ped is a woman and her hubby is a stay at home dad.

Our kids are the same age. Her oldest boy is 4 months older than my oldest and her baby is a week younger than my baby.

[Minnymouth]

Some guys make excellent "Mr. Mom's"......... My youngest brother was a Mr. Mom the entire time his wife was in the burn ward years ago..... They had 5 kids..... she was laid up almost 18 months altogther..... He did fantastic thru it all................ Cooked, cleaned, bathed kids, got them off to school, rearranged his schedule at work so kids were only at a sitters about 3 hours after school....

HE DID FANTASTIC.................... one of the most organized men I have ever seen in action..... had his own routine..... house stayed clean, laundery stayed done and he cooked almost every nite.... And he even made a "little time" for himself in there......

I know he said later on that he "really" understood the value of his wife and what she did..............

They have been married 30 years and together 35 years and Mr. Mom still vacumms once in a while, and cooks dinner......

And his grown daughters with 2 kids say "Dad, just how did you do it???"...... he told them it was all done out of LOVE............

I thought that hit it right on the nailhead......

[mlc]

Jeep-I found the link a little creepy too. Some people just won't give up, huh? ((Jeep))

[JeepMom]

[pink_amulet]

....looks like you have more than one stalker?......