Can I vent?

[GreenInkOnPaper]

Update:

I went off and left my laptop open to this very page, and guess who sits his butt at my desk and reads it? Like I say, NO PRIVACY!
Anyway, he's upset that I had my letter notorized. Says that it was a waste of time...I said that obviously I hope that's true.
So, just to bolster my point, he goes WITH HIS DAD, not his wife, and meets another attorney. Guess what? His dad gives the guy $500, and retains him. Never mind that the guy gives DH what I feel is misinformation. What do I know? I asked DH how he was going to account for his dad paying the attorney...No clue. Oh well. I tried to help.
So, I told DH that I will prolly go ahead and file for divorce. I'll just be a girlfriend. Obviously, he doesn't need a wife.

[jessegirl]

Green and TEW - you are both right. I have a DAMN MIL, LOL which believe me i am being very very kind by sayng damn. She is the most medalling MIL i have ever seen. SHe asks us constantly, how much money my hubby makes, how much for this and that. Its to a point where i feel like saying, why are you asking? do you plan on writing us a check for all of this? My in-laws absolutely suck!!! I would never tell them about this, otherwise, we would here it forever. Everytime, we would buy something she would say, Can you afford it? Ohh, just the thought of her knowing. Oh well, this was a good thrapy session. LOL

Green - when we first got married i tought of leaving my hubby to cause of his mother, but i pulled away from her and our marriage is great. I cannot believe that he is even part of her. They are nothing alike. So just tune of the in-laws and stay focused on what really matters in your life.

[TEW]

Hey, thanks everyone for the encouragement!
Obviously, bigger issues are at work when a 38 year old man still lets his parents ride rough-shod. He's an only child, and seriously- he never spent a minute alone until he graduated from college and bought a house. They ran his first wife off, and they're close to running me off, too. So, somethings are very difficult - if not impossible - to change. I love the guy with all my heart, but like everyone, I do need SOME privacy. I wrote a letter, had it notorized, and gave a copy each to my mother and my dear friend. It basically reads, " If I should die while I'm married to Mr.X - please investigate his mother."
I'm really sorry that some of you have had to deal with family and so-called friends that get in your chili because of your finances. The way I look at it, life's what happens while you're making other plans. I think that's attributible to John Lennon. People are more to me than what they have - or don't have - in the bank, on credit cards, what kind of car they drive, how big their house is. That's just material crap that doesn't care when you are sick, heartbroken, or lonely. I feel like the people who get together here are sometimes better friends than I have in "real" life. I'm sure a lot of you feel the same. Although our posts may be met with "tough" love at times, usually the underlying message is a helpful one. So, thanks again to everyone who chimed in.

Green Ink

Hey green wow you said it all there. I am taking a break from moving boxes from the basement I finished in a house I no longer want. When I first told DW we could no longer afford to keep the house she was very upset. But then I told her it's only sticks and nails. What we have is what the important thing. At the end of the day I think what is important is how we conducted ourselves during our stay on this earth not what we own.

[GreenInkOnPaper]

Hey, thanks everyone for the encouragement!
Obviously, bigger issues are at work when a 38 year old man still lets his parents ride rough-shod. He's an only child, and seriously- he never spent a minute alone until he graduated from college and bought a house. They ran his first wife off, and they're close to running me off, too. So, somethings are very difficult - if not impossible - to change. I love the guy with all my heart, but like everyone, I do need SOME privacy. I wrote a letter, had it notorized, and gave a copy each to my mother and my dear friend. It basically reads, " If I should die while I'm married to Mr.X - please investigate his mother."
I'm really sorry that some of you have had to deal with family and so-called friends that get in your chili because of your finances. The way I look at it, life's what happens while you're making other plans. I think that's attributible to John Lennon. People are more to me than what they have - or don't have - in the bank, on credit cards, what kind of car they drive, how big their house is. That's just material crap that doesn't care when you are sick, heartbroken, or lonely. I feel like the people who get together here are sometimes better friends than I have in "real" life. I'm sure a lot of you feel the same. Although our posts may be met with "tough" love at times, usually the underlying message is a helpful one. So, thanks again to everyone who chimed in.

Green Ink

[Intoodeep80]

I thought DH was "dear husband" .. but damn husband does sound much more fun

[gymbo]

Haha ... I was on here for months before I finally asked about DH and DW... I thought it meant divorced husband and divorced wife. haha

[BK2008]

LOL...

Yeah, he's probably calling me DXW and much worse

[relief13035]

LOL - I am fairly new to the forum and trying to learn the lingo. I have a DXH too (and believe me the shoe DOES fit), but am very fortunate for the last 5 yrs to have a DH.

[Overmylimit]

lol....

[TEW]

Ok - I just have to know something. I keep seeing people type DH and DW. Can someone please tell me what that means? All I can think of is damn husband and damn wife. That just can't be it.

you know what they say if the shoe fits

[BK2008]

Dear Hubby & Dear Wife....

Although in your version, I kind of like DXH!!

[relief13035]

Ok - I just have to know something. I keep seeing people type DH and DW. Can someone please tell me what that means? All I can think of is damn husband and damn wife. That just can't be it.

[debtmonster]

I'm not telling anyone because I don't want to be judged...especially by the nosey-neighbors!
It's my business!

Yep... only tell us. We'll only judge that you did the right thing!

[liz417]

I'm not telling anyone because I don't want to be judged...especially by the nosey-neighbors!
It's my business!

[debtmonster]

Yet, every time she brings it up she repeats this very line like shes some kind of bk specialist or something

She should study and go become a bankruptcy lawyer then.

That's hilarious.

I've only told a few people about my intentions on going BK. So far almost everyone has told me to keep the house. If they lived here a few weeks, they would see how brutal the commutes are to go ANYWHERE even for the smallest thing. Today I went out to pick up food and it took me over 3 hours from the time I left my house to the time I came back. What a joke. Imagine having kids and having that much time being eaten up out here? It's insane. What a mistake to buy a home.