Am I the only one with horrible anxiety? r/o

[denisejohn65]

My anxiety is so bad today......I feel like quiting this whole thing.....I can't. Hearing July 20th 09....no letter in mail yet....I know the date cuz lawyer told me....

[denisejohn65]

Actually I cut it in1/4 and only been taking a 1/4 or 1/2 of 1 mg. I'm just so scared of the whole bk process........worried bout what they want before 341 worried about the 341 worried about what happens after 341, if I get a discharge or what???

[tinfoilhat]

I started to take Xanax too. Only a 1mg.....I wonder if it really helps...maybe a little. Hugs to you! I have alot of problems with anxiety and panic problems too. I hardley understand all this BK stuff. I have a Lawyer and filed on June 12th 09. 341 July 20th 09.....so scared......I even start to shake....Cuz I feel so stupid to all this bk stuff....I have no idea.....I feel in the dark....

I uh bolded the side effects that most people take this drug for, and also the above bold text that relates to the side effects.
Whats this drug prescribed for, oh anxiety, weird that it's also a side effect.


Take two mg, you won't give a ***t about anything.

Big hugs to all, you might even feel it, warm sensation is also a side effect.

Someone USED TO work for a doctor who prescribed this stuff, I PERSONALLY have taken it for 16 years. I don't even care about the percentages of each side effect, I've felt all of them at some point. Call the doctor, get the answer--take more and see me in two weeks.

Nervous system side effects reported during treatment for panic disorder have included drowsiness (76.8%), fatigue and tiredness (48.6%), impaired coordination (40.1%), irritability (33.1%), memory impairment (33.1%), lightheaded/dizziness (29.8%), insomnia (29.4%), headache (29.2%), cognitive disorder (28.8%), dysarthria (23.3%), anxiety (16.6%), abnormal involuntary movement (14.8%), decreased libido (14.4%), confused state (10.4%), muscular twitching (7.9%), increased libido (7.7%), change in libido (7.1%), weakness (7.1%), muscle tone disorders (6.3%), syncope (3.8%), akathisia (3.0%), agitation (2.9%), disinhibition (2.7%), paresthesia (2.4%), talkativeness (2.2%), vasomotor disturbances (2.0%), derealization (1.9%), dream abnormalities (1.8%), fear (1.4%), feeling warm (1.3%).

[denisejohn65]

I started to take Xanax too. Only a 1mg.....I wonder if it really helps...maybe a little. Hugs to you! I have alot of problems with anxiety and panic problems too. I hardley understand all this BK stuff. I have a Lawyer and filed on June 12th 09. 341 July 20th 09.....so scared......I even start to shake....Cuz I feel so stupid to all this bk stuff....I have no idea.....I feel in the dark....

[eddiep]

you are right, the further you go into this process the better you will feel. You don't "have a problem" you trying to deal with are the most stressful situation ever!

[tinfoilhat]

There are much safer meds to take than Xanax. Talk to your doctor about anti-depressants like Prozac. Prozac is now available generic so it's inexpensive and will probably help you cope with your current stress. It's not uncommon for one to become depressed following events such as deaths and financial strains.

Best of luck to you! It will get better!

I know all this. I used to work for a doctor who prescribed Xanax, pain pills and sleeping pills to every patient rather they needed it or not which is why I'm scared to take them.

[OhioFiler]

There are much safer meds to take than Xanax. Talk to your doctor about anti-depressants like Prozac. Prozac is now available generic so it's inexpensive and will probably help you cope with your current stress. It's not uncommon for one to become depressed following events such as deaths and financial strains.

Best of luck to you! It will get better!

[aces67]

I wouldn't start with the xanax. Anxiety is a natural response to stress unfortunately. Exercise of any kind will be helpful and keep the kids busy too. When you start stressing take the kids out for a long brisk walk. It will be great for all of you. I won't preach about xanax, there are just too many reasons not to take it. Do you have one person you can confide in, even if you don't give all the details? You need to have someone watching out for you, because if you do go over the edge you may not realize it.

Not really. With everything I've been through this year my family doctor wants me to at least see a counselor but I don't like to admit that I have a problem. If I ask my MIL to keep the kids once a week she's going to start asking questions. I'm hoping that if this BK will come to a close soon that will help me a LOT. I know it will take away some of my anxiety then hopefully I can work through the rest of it.

[eddiep]

I wouldn't start with the xanax. Anxiety is a natural response to stress unfortunately. Exercise of any kind will be helpful and keep the kids busy too. When you start stressing take the kids out for a long brisk walk. It will be great for all of you. I won't preach about xanax, there are just too many reasons not to take it. Do you have one person you can confide in, even if you don't give all the details? You need to have someone watching out for you, because if you do go over the edge you may not realize it.

[tinfoilhat]

prescribed Xanax to ease symptoms I only take 25 mg.

Theres an idea, take 25 mg xanax after your 341, 3 months later when you wake up it'll all be over and you'll be debt free I guess you meant .25 mg

[timeouts1]

I too am having a very difficult time with the stress...I need to keep myself under control as if I lose my job over not being able to perform I will be letting my family down even more than I feel I already have. I previoulsy took Zoloft for depression and anxiety and was weaned off with no problems, however, recently when problems with the the BK and very unresponsive attoryned started to blow up I felt like I was just a bundle of nerves, no sleeping constant knots in the stomach, wondering how we will get thorugh this. I saw my physician and she started me back on the Zoloft, but prescribed Xanax to ease symptoms until the Zoloft starts to work (takes about 4 weeks). I only take 25 mg and it just takes the edge off, I can at least sleep until about 4am and I am able to function fine at work. Take what you need to get through this.

[lookingforward]

Maybe everyone worries about these things and has these feelings, I can't say. There are a lot of people out there that have it far, far worse than me and I am not looking for pity. I have a lot of blessings in my life. I try to focus on those things and move forward towards the solutions to our problems. In the mean time I just need a little help.

Yes, exactly. You just don't know what the straw that breaks the back is going to be. It can be the littlest thing, but you can only take so much stress before you break. I think that there is no reason for any person to suffer with that level of stress and anxiety when there are things your doctor can prescribe to do exactly what you said, give you a little help until you can work out the solutions to the problems that are making you that way.

Until someone has actually had a panic attack, they can't understand how bad it can be for someone with anxiety/panic disorder. I've been there, I know how you feel! Just keep looking ahead, things will be better!

[Kpower]

Everyone has stress but not everyone can deal with it as well as others. Some have more stress than others. I personally have an anxiety disorder and I have recently had to admit it to myself. I was able to control it until we bought a house 2 years ago. I started to worry about things breaking and not having money. I worried that we would never be able to get furniture to fill it. I worried that something would happen to me and my wife would be stuck with the mortgage. I worried that I would lose my job and not be able to pay and we would end up the street. My job did end but I was able to shift to another dept but now I work for a former boss that I did not get along with. Then my wife got pregnant last year and I worried about the million things that can go wrong with that. I discovered we didn't have money for daycare so we had to refi and my wife was resistant but the truth won out. Then I worried about if my son was being taken care of properly there and I had reason to believe he wasn't so we took him out and found an in home sitter. Then I worried that noone would know if she hit him or something and he developed this strange fungal rash that would go away on the weekends and come back when he was at her house all week.

Meanwhile my wife was pregnant again and I had to figure out a way to pay for two kids daycare and worry about all the million things that could go wrong with the pregnancy in the meantime. The solution was for my wife to go part time and work evenings and weekends. It was only 20 hours a week so that cut her salary in half. we were both making about 40k so that was 25% of our salary all together. This caused us to slip further and further behind on the mortgage and we knew that when she was on maternity leave she would not get paid so we had that looming over us. We were two months behind on the mortgage and we had to use our tax return to buy more baby furniture and other baby stuff. We used the rest to stock up on some food and to pay the mortgage and some other bills. Meanwhile we noticed that my son's pupils were different sizes. He was diagnosed with Horner's syndrome which could be caused by a tumor or he could just have been born with it. So we had to get an MRI done. Thank God it was not a tumor. We started to slip again. We were two months behind and we got a notice that we were in default and so my wife took out 3k from her 401k and caught us up but we knew that we were going to start slipping again because the maternity leave was just a month away. One day I woke up with chest pain and it would not go away. I had had it several times before but it passed. This time it persisted and my heart was racing and I felt like I was going to die. I had a feeling of impending doom. It was an anxiety attack and they have come more and more frequently since then. I was at the point where I could not take it anymore and I could not handle the stress so I had to convince my wife it was time to file.

She finally agreed to go see a lawyer and he talked us into walking away from the house and filing chapter 7. That decision alone was a great relief for me and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. In the meantime I need to take some medicine so that I can stop having panic attacks that make me feel like I am having a heart attack. I like not feeling impending doom constantly. I am less likely to snap at my wife and I am worrying much less. I don't feel like my stomach is in knots constantly anymore. The drugs handle the symptoms while I handle the problems that cause the symptoms. I am not going to stay on the drugs a second longer than I have to because I do not want artificial happiness. I just need them to get through a tough time.

Maybe everyone worries about these things and has these feelings, I can't say. There are a lot of people out there that have it far, far worse than me and I am not looking for pity. I have a lot of blessings in my life. I try to focus on those things and move forward towards the solutions to our problems. In the mean time I just need a little help.

[LuciluS]

Yuck yuck and yuck I know that feeling you are talking about, as many other do as well

I don't know how i have managed honestly i think as cliche' as it is to say..
Is it what it is

when I realized several months ago (almost a year.. wow) that BK was what I must do
I thought it was a tragedy I went through anger/sadness/guilt (major) then I said "self
this is not a tragedy..something bad to your family is a tragedy..this is a bad situation that i could give excuses for in a hundred different ways but it doesn't matter now.."
I need to get through this one and learn from it

I would not dare say I am "over it" but I am coming to terms with the decision
I do worry about the 341/discharge and all the possible things that can occur but i guess i have resolved to say that i will "meet that bridge when i get to it" for now i am filed and waiting..

..............sigh...............

everything (at this point) is not in your control.....response only at this point

I a not sure why th universe would like me/us to have this experience but I guess i will have faith in that there must be a reason...lesson (?)

Fyi:

I felt the same way when told last Sept. by a non-profit debt management co. they could not help us...we needed to see a Bankruptcy Attorney. Met with him late last Sept.

Yes, I went through all the sadness/anger/guilt etc. Realized in December, hey..... we paid an Attorney to take our Case & will be filing in 9/09 and as long as I give him the required information... from date of filing until discharged, it's out of our hands. I feel very confident in our Attorney.

We (Dh & I) have experienced so many trials & tribulations in the past 4 years; but our Faith remains Strong. Our Attorney has reassured us waiting until 9/09 to file our case will be simple. He went on to say I've provided detailed accounting of all monies spent. At 341 we will answer yes or no. Trustee requests additional information, he will provide it.

Worried or Concerned? No! I've spent days and days reading the Stickies & posts found on this forum and asked questions. I've, also, know Everything in regards to Bankruptcy is not 'written in stone'. Trustees allow a Student/Parentplus Loan as an expense in our District. As TeacherMomma stated in her thread of her 341, the UST would Not allow such as a monthly expense.

Luci

[tinfoilhat]

I know it doesn't help much but what will worrying about it going to do to help solve the problem?

And the absolute best help for worry is EXERCISE - you will be amazed. - jb

The problem is you don't make a conscious decision to worry about something. It happens naturally.

You can make the decision to do things to keep your mind off of it, such as exercise.

Personally I think people going through a typically stressful time in life should exercise, and do things to prevent stress even if it hasn't effected them yet.

Many people are getting into situations here that are long lasting and will take it's toll on a person. These people should get a head start in the anxiety battle (NATURALLY) before it gets ahold of them.