Fatigue from the whole BK process.

[anonymuse]

Something that took me working 3rd shift and sleeping in loud areas to figure out.....foam earplugs. They work like a charm And I can still hear the alarm or unusual loud sounds like a car wreck and my house alarm or fire alarm. Just wanted to throw ya that tip

I should have just turned off the computer--or at least muted it. LOL

[bkadv]

Very fatigued here also. Anyone who files bk and thinks they will ride off into the sunset is crazy. We are now in to about ten months of this, and still waiting for trustee to close our case. It makes me crazy, just the small things even seem to loom really big and weigh on our mind.

[lrprn]

After reading some of the BK horror stories here and on other websites, I find myself worrying constantly about whether we'll find ourselves in e sinking bk boat just because we get a malicious trustee or have some odd thing we forgot to put in the plan that comes back to bite us big time later. Yesterday I ended up in the hospital with a stress-related illness - I really need to take Minny's good advice and learn to take things as they come. Any advice from those who have conquered their worry?

[anonymuse]

After reading some of the BK horror stories here and on other websites, I find myself worrying constantly about whether we'll find ourselves in e sinking bk boat just because we get a malicious trustee or have some odd thing we forgot to put in the plan that comes back to bite us big time later. Yesterday I ended up in the hospital with a stress-related illness - I really need to take Minny's good advice and learn to take things as they come. Any advice from those who have conquered their worry?

Those horror stories scare me also! Especially the trustee ones. But I made that poll about whether your trustee was good, bad, or indifferent--and most people said good or indifferent.

Human nature, in a situation like this, tends to be to post when things go wrong and/or are upsetting than when things go smoothly so realize that what we see on posts are not necessarily representative of the whole picture.

Still don't know how to not worry though. ;)

[miss puff]

I guess I am more fatigued of it then I thought I was. I met with our lawyer again today because he said we could have as many "free" meetings as we wanted up until the day we pay him and file and he asked me what was the first thing I was gonna buy post bankruptcy and I said "I am actually going to mail in the payment for my son to join T-Ball, not just fill out the form and clip it on the fridge until I can afford it" and you know what I did? I started bawling!!!!!!! Now, I am not a cryer by nature and I don't cry daintely either. I can't shed a few tears, give a gentle swipe at them and have a cute little pout! I tend to make mewling sounds and hiccup and snort and just make a muck out of someone trying to feel sorry for me cause I am so ridiculous sounding. However, I tried really hard to control myself and get myself under control and my attorney gave me a little pat on the arm and said that "that was the sweetest thing he has heard", which almost made me start all over again. So yah, I agree, I am fatigued too, and I really haven't even started yet.....

[anonymuse]

Miss Puff,

If it helps you to know this, I haven't had an attorney visit yet where tears haven't welled up in my eyes or outright crying. This is difficult. We didn't think we'd be at this point in our lives. And it's something we keep inside since its one of those things you don't talk about at the water cooler. I don't know what I'd do without these boards--I check this in the morning before my regular email.

[lrprn]

I'm not a crier by nature either, but I think I've cried at least once every day for the last year as we've moved through the stages to filing Ch13...and that includes several tears-dripping, nose-blowing sessions in front of our lawyer while we were discussing some difficult aspects of our case. "Cry me a river" ought to be my new theme song - nice to know I'm not alone - thanks for sharing, Miss Puff and Anon.