Thanks to you all for your contributions and feedback. I'm not in a state of panic. But I am deeply concerned.
OK I am seeing another attorney this evening after work armed with a growing laundry list of questions and concerns, then I see another Friday morning before work. At that point I will have seen 4 all together and will make up my mind on what to do.
Regarding my house. I simply cannot afford to lose that house. We are current on the payments, and my wife who is ailing, is banking on being able to sell it in a few years, pull equity out and move to a larger home in a warm climate. We/she is in a 80/20 mortgage situation and something must be done by the third year I cannot do anything that will risk that.
So, I'm thinking about wether I can take my name off the deed now (almost 3 years prior to a sale and move), continue to make minimal payments on my unsecureds where I can, (I do make commission, can hang onto that second job, my son starts kindergarden in a little over a year and that will free up $420 a month, and plane tickets for the ex wife end after another 3000 is paid over the next year), add to that that I am in a position where my income will increase yearly by about 10K from this job and we/she (being on the mortagage) should get a decent return for tax year '05, and maybe I can make it for the next 3 years.
It won't be pretty and I know I will never ever be able to pay off this debt, but perhaps I can at least get as far as her purchasing the next home without me on the deed of course, and then at that point taking the plunge.
Maybe I'm overthinking, maybe I should just go 13 and take the plunge so I know the house is safe now. Either way my credit is shot for the forseeable future.
My wife is thinking that perhaps we should divorce and take me off the deed so that I can be legally detached from her for certain and that she will for certain not get caught up in this. It would be a divorce for the sake of getting this cleaned up and we would remarry once this is a year or so past.
Thoughts???
OK I am seeing another attorney this evening after work armed with a growing laundry list of questions and concerns, then I see another Friday morning before work. At that point I will have seen 4 all together and will make up my mind on what to do.
Regarding my house. I simply cannot afford to lose that house. We are current on the payments, and my wife who is ailing, is banking on being able to sell it in a few years, pull equity out and move to a larger home in a warm climate. We/she is in a 80/20 mortgage situation and something must be done by the third year I cannot do anything that will risk that.
So, I'm thinking about wether I can take my name off the deed now (almost 3 years prior to a sale and move), continue to make minimal payments on my unsecureds where I can, (I do make commission, can hang onto that second job, my son starts kindergarden in a little over a year and that will free up $420 a month, and plane tickets for the ex wife end after another 3000 is paid over the next year), add to that that I am in a position where my income will increase yearly by about 10K from this job and we/she (being on the mortagage) should get a decent return for tax year '05, and maybe I can make it for the next 3 years.
It won't be pretty and I know I will never ever be able to pay off this debt, but perhaps I can at least get as far as her purchasing the next home without me on the deed of course, and then at that point taking the plunge.
Maybe I'm overthinking, maybe I should just go 13 and take the plunge so I know the house is safe now. Either way my credit is shot for the forseeable future.
My wife is thinking that perhaps we should divorce and take me off the deed so that I can be legally detached from her for certain and that she will for certain not get caught up in this. It would be a divorce for the sake of getting this cleaned up and we would remarry once this is a year or so past.
Thoughts???
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