Who have you told?

[OhioFiler]

wise owl here.
I have told three people, my best friend, my best family member friend, and one other person whose opinion I respect.

as the wise owl stated, there is no need to get your business out there. however, if you have friends or family that are under financial distress, it is good to give them information to help them consider if BK is the right strategy.

to sum it up, I find that smart people are the ones that file, especially when they (me) get screwed over by people lying on loan documents to buy houses they had no business buying and banks giving out loans to these same people as well, something that really messed up people like yours truly who make excellent income yet have a home underwater by over 100k because of the bullshit that floated out of these lies.

rambling over....hope I made sense here.

I'm not sure I understand how others decisions led you to file bankruptcy.

The things that keeps me from being insolvent are integrity and personal responsibility.

I explained the situation to my boss and no one else. If others need to know they can do their own legal research on PACER.

[SMinGA]

Hubby told his parents. We discuss just about everything with his parents. And we have a close friend who knows. I'm not close enough to discuss anything more than necessary with my family. (That's a saga for another type of help forum LOL.)

[blockhead]

Told no one - 'cept wife - she is not filing. What bothers me a bit is not knowing who knows, e.g if a business meeting (I am a self employed consultant) gets delayed, is it because this guy who has a bunch of contacts in the financial industry so is attuned to financial status, runs people he gets introduced to through a public search, or is he just being flaky which happens a lot anyway.

[JEM]

No...we haven't told anyone. I don't feel like it's any of their business either.

Sometimes I feel like everywhere I go..everyone is looking at us and "knows". I know that's not true, but sometimes it's hard to remember that.

[OhioFiler]

No...we haven't told anyone. I don't feel like it's any of their business either.

Sometimes I feel like everywhere I go..everyone is looking at us and "knows". I know that's not true, but sometimes it's hard to remember that.

You been hanging out with ApresMoi lately?

[lovebirds]

My best friend works in a bankruptcy office and suggested it to me after I broke out in tears driving home (we carpool together).

[Dannmcg357]

gmk is that a chipmunk with a beer and cigg? what's going on in your avatar, I can't make it out.

[JEM]

You been hanging out with ApresMoi lately?

LOL. Well, I guess I should say by "everyone", I mean family. I know that Amex tried to call FIL (vs. us) and sometimes I wonder if they've called other family members and no one has told us that they know what's going on.

Stupid, I know. But I guess it's not me quite being over the feeling like we have a dirty little secret.

[gmk]

gmk is that a chipmunk with a beer and cigg? what's going on in your avatar, I can't make it out.

1 out of 3. Chilled out squirrel, cigg and a bottle of Jack D.

[Lissy]

The only people I have told are my mom and my sister. I'm very close to my mom and don't care if she knows. My sister and her husband are going to file Chapter 7 in May (I'm doing Chapter 13), so we're pretty much in the same boat. None of my friends know. I don't share other personal financial information with them, so to me, this is no different.

[nc73]

My family knows. I don't really care who knows. Not worried what people think.

[flyinbroke]

For me it is a business decision, but no one needs to know my business. Thus no one knows.

[ryan]

... He's treating me differently now and I haven't asked him for anything. Actually, I don't think he's even a friend. I'm just the only one he knows and he likes to tell me about all the great stuff he's bought recently. .

If he is treating you different over this action, then he was probably not a real friend anyway. Just my opinion.

[nc73]

If he is treating you different over this action, then he was probably not a real friend anyway. Just my opinion.

A real friend would offer help.

[beachchick]

Your finances are personal, why would you talk about it with anyone,it is nobody's business. Can never figure out why people want the whole world to know their business, that is very strange, would they talk about their sex life? But then maybe again those who share their finances might vevery well do just that.