All The Single Ladies!

[freedomnow7]

LOL...okay, well maybe someone else will need to hear what I wrote above. I wrote it before I read your response....CONGRATS TO YOU AND YOUR MAN!! I wish you all the best life together!!

[backtoschool]

I am not sure how I missed this thread, but I just saw it. I started dating my fiance while I was in the middle of my bk. I was honest right from the start with him. (as soon as it made sense to tell him.) I disclosed the information as a natural part of revealing my personal "story". He didn't care at all. I think it is important to be honest, but not to reveal too much personal info immediately (by immediately I mean first date, etc) until you see if you are going to get to know the person. That holds true about any info, not just your bk history.

As others have said, the right person will not care. We all have our pasts and we have all made mistakes in one area of life or another.

[MsSnickers]

I am not sure how I missed this thread, but I just saw it. I started dating my fiance while I was in the middle of my bk. I was honest right from the start with him. (as soon as it made sense to tell him.) I disclosed the information as a natural part of revealing my personal "story". He didn't care at all. I think it is important to be honest, but not to reveal too much personal info immediately (by immediately I mean first date, etc) until you see if you are going to get to know the person. That holds true about any info, not just your bk history.

As others have said, the right person will not care. We all have our pasts and we have all made mistakes in one area of life or another.

Very good points, with my guy though part of his objection was I should have told him sooner. I was never clear on just when he meant by sooner or what I should have told him, because when we first met, there was nothing to tell, yet. I was simply robbing Peter to pay Paul, but wasn't in any trouble....my bills were being paid. BK was suggested to me by my brother when he found out that my sweety and I wanted me to move to Canada to be with him, so I thought, better to go with a clean slate (and it would take about a year for me to go anyway). It all kind of turned into a moot point anyway because the BK was just the catalyst.......sweety (grrrrr) decided he didn't want to wait after all. Whatever!!

[MsSnickers]

LOL...okay, well maybe someone else will need to hear what I wrote above. I wrote it before I read your response....CONGRATS TO YOU AND YOUR MAN!! I wish you all the best life together!!

Freedom, you had it right the first time (I think!). I think what you were seeing after, was my congrats to Oregon. I didn't quote, I simply put in the bold the comment about them getting married. At least I think that is what happened. I dunno, I think I need more caffeine today. LOL!

[HOMEBODY]

Oregon...you are very lucky with your guy. I want some advise from you as to how to keep a relationship with someone who doesnt like to spend any money..not even on himself. I think filing BK is a good financial decision especially when we are in our 50's and 60's. We dont have much time to be paying back interest to the big bank corporations. They couldnt care less if we were having heart attacks over the stress. I feel so great knowing that I have $10,000 in the bank and my bills are being paid on time. It is not much but I filed just last June...before that, my money was going out of my accounts faster than it was going in and the main bills were paid late. A couple of times I forgot to pay my light bill and I came home to a dark house to get on the cell phone for hours trying to get my light back up...it was so humiliating.

[MsSnickers]

Oregon...you are very lucky with your guy. I want some advise from you as to how to keep a relationship with someone who doesnt like to spend any money..not even on himself. I think filing BK is a good financial decision especially when we are in our 50's and 60's. We dont have much time to be paying back interest to the big bank corporations. They couldnt care less if we were having heart attacks over the stress. I feel so great knowing that I have $10,000 in the bank and my bills are being paid on time. It is not much but I filed just last June...before that, my money was going out of my accounts faster than it was going in and the main bills were paid late. A couple of times I forgot to pay my light bill and I came home to a dark house to get on the cell phone for hours trying to get my light back up...it was so humiliating.

That must be a good feeling Homebody......congrats on having that money saved up. I can't wait to have an emergency fund/nest egg saved up. It's been way too long

[freedomnow7]

MsSnickers - I was like, "Wow, she just started dating someone and is getting married already....dang, I wish I could work that quick," lol. I wanted to ask how you did it, but didn't want to be nosy. Now I know!

[MsSnickers]

MsSnickers - I was like, "Wow, she just started dating someone and is getting married already....dang, I wish I could work that quick," lol. I wanted to ask how you did it, but didn't want to be nosy. Now I know!

Hahaha, that would be some fancy footwork wouldn't it?

[oregonpilot]

Oregon...you are very lucky with your guy. I want some advise from you as to how to keep a relationship with someone who doesnt like to spend any money..not even on himself. I think filing BK is a good financial decision especially when we are in our 50's and 60's. We dont have much time to be paying back interest to the big bank corporations. They couldnt care less if we were having heart attacks over the stress. I feel so great knowing that I have $10,000 in the bank and my bills are being paid on time. It is not much but I filed just last June...before that, my money was going out of my accounts faster than it was going in and the main bills were paid late. A couple of times I forgot to pay my light bill and I came home to a dark house to get on the cell phone for hours trying to get my light back up...it was so humiliating.

That is so cool that you have $$'s in the bank. For me, just having $300. in checking that didn't need to be paid out (days ago) puts a smile on my face.

What worried me was that S.O. was going to monitor every .01 that i spend. (candles are my thing, so didn't want to get scrutinized wnenever i wanted to buy one)
We agreed (both ways) that unless it was a significant amt (more than $50) that it wasn't an issue. and didn't hear..should you really be buying that.

After being together 9 yrs he finally knows all my secrets.