my wife did this to us

[AngelinaCatHub]

Ask Mr and Mrs Angelina Cat how many times they've wanted to strangle each other. Marriage isn't easy, but if you stick through it and remember you are a team, you will have that person in your old age to laugh with when you remember the hard times.

Blankslate, you've been reading my mail. If the Mrs. ever had more reason to "take me out and bury me in the back yard" [I did laugh at that one], I have given it to her in our more than 20 years of marriage and before.

We lost all our wealth, some for good reasons in a land preservation, we still have rights to the land and no taxes on it, but I lost all our retirement in a pitsing match lasting ten years, with a jerk who could outspend me in lawyers. I've done a multitude of 'dumb-stuff' in the time we have been together. She has too, but I don't say it to her face. LOL.

We both attempt to live in "creation" rather than 'culture', especially after bk. We both understand that we are both human, fallible, and made lessor than the Angels. We make mistakes. The difficult part is forgiveness over pride. Too many arguments are caused by little things, not big things in life. Too many worries are caused by concern over things you cannot control anyway.

We do not go to bed with a disagreement on our minds. It ruins the next day in advance.

God's gift to us is every day He allows us to live. Our gift to Him, is how we live it.

The OP has a very small problem when all things are weighed. It is only money, not death. It can be fixed. The error of the spouses ways must be looked at, discerned, and fixed. That is the most important thing. Sweeping up the mess is lessor of the problems. The author would be a far better "MAN" if he just told his wife he knows what she has done, and forgives her and then simply ask her to help him fix it and tell her; "we will fix it together".

Only my 2 cents. 'Hub

[Flamingo]

How I do I tell with this? My wife got all these credit cards in my name using my information. She changed hte billing address to a po box.


Now were bankrupting because of her and i'm the only one calling the creditors and the lawyers.

In a nutshell:

1. If your wife signed your name without a power of attorney or any written permission from you and without your knowledge for these cards she committed fraud.
2. You can either report her to the authorities and deny any responsibility for the debt and deal with the backlash and the possibility your marriage will end.
3. There is a reason your wife did this and you have to find out why in order to save your marriage and for it not to happen again. I suggest marriage counseling.

Best of luck to you both...

[tlcabk]

I agree whole heartedly with Blanslate. There is some underlying issue that your spouse needs to deal with. Marriage should not be thrown out liek the trash. Everyone is imperfect is some way. If you love this person, counseling is a great place to start. If your filing BK you'll be getting a fresh start for your finances, now is a great time to get a fresh start for your marriage as well. Good luck, may God guide and keep you.

[blankslate]

The replies to this thread are neither helpful nor amusing.

I'm sorry you are having this trouble in your marriage. You need to find out WHY your wife did this and what you can do together to make sure it never happens again. I'm sure she fell into the same trap 99% of Americans did. You need to be a team now more than ever to get each other through this, together.

Ask Mr and Mrs Angelina Cat how many times they've wanted to strangle each other. Marriage isn't easy, but if you stick through it and remember you are a team, you will have that person in your old age to laugh with when you remember the hard times.

[DebtHater]

Your wife opened these accounts in your name? If so you need to file a police report immediately as this is identity theft.

[pcn]

1) Kill her and bury her in the back yard
2) Talk to her and work things out - forgive.

Not too many options when you think about it. Some better than others.

[jribe]

How I do I tell with this? My wife got all these credit cards in my name using my information. She changed hte billing address to a po box.


Now were bankrupting because of her and i'm the only one calling the creditors and the lawyers.

are you contemplating divorce? If you are, you may be able to file fraud charges and try and get the debts in her name. I would speak to an attorney about everything though.

The credit card companies have to verify information - so you can also allege possible identity theft if she opened and used the cards in your name and you never used them or knew about them.

[cameron]

How I do I tell with this? My wife got all these credit cards in my name using my information. She changed hte billing address to a po box.


Now were bankrupting because of her and i'm the only one calling the creditors and the lawyers.