Be warned this is a major rant LOL
My spouse is driving me freaking nuts with his need to send money to family members for, in my opinion, frivolous needs.
So here's the deal. My spouse is from a different country than me and we are constantly butting heads on cultural issues. I was born in the US and he in Mexico. We have sent money in the past to his family to help with medical or basic needs. We've also sent money to help his 80 yr old grandmother get a roof on her house. Those things are perfectly acceptable to me.
BUT now his family calls whenever they need/want money. Recently his aunt called asking for $300 to pay a student fee for his nephew to go to college. IMO, if she can't afford the fee then how will she afford the tuition and are we going to end up paying his entire way through college? If so, that's not going to fly because I have 60K in my own student debt plus 2 kids to put through college in a few years.
And now he tells me his good friend here in the states wants us to be god parents aka cash cows to their youngest child. And then he informs me that this will cost us at least 1k! But not to worry because it won't be due until 7 or 8 months from now, WTF?
We're not even financially well off either. I just recently started working and will be bumped up to a measly $12/hr in April. He's making like $10/hr. We don't own anything of value. We have 2 kids to support. We CAN"T afford to be a charity. I know that sounds mean but we don't have the financial means to do it. BUT he don't get it. He thinks I'm being selfish and inconsiderate because we live in the US so we should be able to give his family money whenever they ask. As for his friend here in the states, well we borrowed money from him a few times "that we paid back!", so we need to be cash cows now to repay the favor?
End rant...
My spouse is driving me freaking nuts with his need to send money to family members for, in my opinion, frivolous needs.
So here's the deal. My spouse is from a different country than me and we are constantly butting heads on cultural issues. I was born in the US and he in Mexico. We have sent money in the past to his family to help with medical or basic needs. We've also sent money to help his 80 yr old grandmother get a roof on her house. Those things are perfectly acceptable to me.
BUT now his family calls whenever they need/want money. Recently his aunt called asking for $300 to pay a student fee for his nephew to go to college. IMO, if she can't afford the fee then how will she afford the tuition and are we going to end up paying his entire way through college? If so, that's not going to fly because I have 60K in my own student debt plus 2 kids to put through college in a few years.
And now he tells me his good friend here in the states wants us to be god parents aka cash cows to their youngest child. And then he informs me that this will cost us at least 1k! But not to worry because it won't be due until 7 or 8 months from now, WTF?
We're not even financially well off either. I just recently started working and will be bumped up to a measly $12/hr in April. He's making like $10/hr. We don't own anything of value. We have 2 kids to support. We CAN"T afford to be a charity. I know that sounds mean but we don't have the financial means to do it. BUT he don't get it. He thinks I'm being selfish and inconsiderate because we live in the US so we should be able to give his family money whenever they ask. As for his friend here in the states, well we borrowed money from him a few times "that we paid back!", so we need to be cash cows now to repay the favor?
End rant...
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