Told my wife

[Blackgoose]

She told me she would never be able to trust me again. You guys I'm sorry but right now I don't even want to type. I'm in a hotel room. Away from my kids and my wife. I just wish the tears could wash away a little bit of the pain and heartache I'm feeling. I just want it to go away. Heartbroken!!

[keepsmiling]

Well guys I broke the news to my wife about the cc debt.

It's over.

I don't know what to do or where to go from here but it really does not matter anymore.

Thanks to everyone for your time and advice.

Sounds like a knee-jerk reaction to me. If I am understanding correctly, I am sorry to hear it didn't go well. Regardless-- it HAD to be done. Give her a little time to get her head wrapped around it, maybe even send her a link to this forum. She needs to understand how many "normal" people wind up here.

[StartinOver]

"Wives have a fifth sense." Umm... 'Hub? that would be SIXTH. (Not that we need it, most of the stuff we're supposed to be so intuitive about is really obvious, anyway. Oh, wait, that's that pesky sixth sense in action again!

[AngelinaCatHub]

Well guys I broke the news to my wife about the cc debt.

It's over.

I don't know what to do or where to go from here but it really does not matter anymore.

Thanks to everyone for your time and advice.

PLEASE 'Blackgoose', keep your current thread active. We look for the response there, not in a new thread.

OK young man, you did not say how it went. You posted so murder was not into your ordeal. Tell me now, for the good or the bad, have you had some release in the tension of this situation?

Say no and I'll tell you that your are not truthful. It has to at least settled your soul a bit. Do not tell me she could not see something wrong. Wives has a fifth sense.

OK friend, now that the major hurdle is over, stick with us and go on to finding a new lawyer that you can address better than "FU". LOL.

Good work. 'Hub

[StartinOver]

Justbroke said it better than I did. And although your wife may have hurled some words around, do remember, if she's been blindsided by this, she needs time to get her head around it. She needs time to reflect on how much burden you've been carrying by keeping it to yourself, and to realize WHY you shielded her from this. It's not all self-pride, is it? You were protecting her from the sleepless nights and panic you have been experiencing.

Financial struggles are a huge wedge that plays a big part in many marriage breakups. But your marriage can survive this if you both figure out quickly that you need to get on the same side together and battle this issue and protect your little family. Not use it as a bludgeon against each other. Keep firmly in your mind your sense of the qualities that drew you to her. And remember the qualities that drew her to you are still there and always were there. It might have seemed like silly human pride keeping you from letting her know about the debt, but your intentions were good. You were trying to be the man she thinks you are. And you know what? You ARE that man. Show her that!

[justbroke]

I hope that by "over" you mean that the cat is out of the bag. Hopefully, you can now work on your relationship since I'm sure the word "trust" came up in the conversation. I trust that you'll do the right thing; just as you have by coming clean.

[StartinOver]

When I read 'castigated' it translated in my mind as 'castrated' ... which might be equally bad, I suppose! These are both survivable, though, and I hope it's not really over for you!

[jacko]

How did she react? Did you get castigated?

Well guys I broke the news to my wife about the cc debt.

It's over.

I don't know what to do or where to go from here but it really does not matter anymore.

Thanks to everyone for your time and advice.

[Blackgoose]

Well guys I broke the news to my wife about the cc debt.

It's over.

I don't know what to do or where to go from here but it really does not matter anymore.

Thanks to everyone for your time and advice.